Is your child a deep sleeper?
I often hear from parents that their children are such deep sleepers so it’s simply impossible for them to wake up at night and that this is the cause of their bedwetting. My response to this is ‘beware the self-fulfilling prophecy’
Yes – there are some children who are out for the count and nothing will seem to rouse them from a deep, deep sleep – not even lying in a soaking wet bed.
But, it never ceases to amaze me the number of times I have worked with one of these ‘deep sleepers’ in my bedwetting clinic and had them admit to me that they are in fact aware of wetting their beds – that they do momentarily wake up but they just can’t bring themselves to get up and go to the bathroom. Various excuses are given – they are either slightly afraid (something the parent wasn’t aware of, even if steps had been taken to avoid this) or it was simply too cold to contemplate getting out of bed. After the event, they simply fall back asleep.
I say ‘beware the self-fulfilling prophecy’ because if this is your child’s bedwetting problem, he or she may well have overheard you repeating this ‘deep sleep’ mantra many times over either within the family or to any of the health professionals that you’ve consulted in the past.
For years your child could have been hearing that he is a ‘deep sleeper’ and nothing will wake him up. A nice hypnotic suggestion if ever I heard one! I wonder how different things could be right now if all your child had heard was what a ‘light sleeper ‘they were and how easy it was for them to get up at night and go to the bathroom!
The truth is, we all know that it’s very easy to programme our minds to wake up at a specific time. How many times in the past have you had to wake up at some ridiculous hour of the early morning to go on a holiday? Most of us will go to bed worrying about oversleeping only to find ourselves waking up two minutes before the alarm clock goes off. And then we feel strangely spooked by it!
Your child is just as good at programming his or her mind. I bet your child doesn’t have problems waking up on Christmas morning or on their birthday. The prospect of receiving those presents is enough to get them jumping out of bed really early in the morning. Without even realising it, they programmed their minds to wake up early, the night before.
And in just the same way, it’s possible to do the same with waking up to go to the bathroom and avoiding that bed wetting accident. You can read more about how to programme your child’s mind to avoid those wet beds in “Stop Bedwetting in 7 Days”.
Alicia Eaton is a Children’s Behavioural Specialist – a fully qualified Clinical Hypnotherapist and Licensed NLP Coach based in London’s Harley Street since 2004. She is the author of the best-selling “Stop Bedwetting in 7 days” book and video programme. You can read more about changing children’s habits and behaviours in her latest book: “Words that Work: How to Get Kids to Do Almost Anything”.